What is lack of self-love and how to get rid of it.

What is lack of Self-love and how to get rid of that feeling.

تضحيات الحياه الزوجيه sacrifice in life
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Written by Shahar Sherif

Life coach and marital relationship consultant.

Do you know what it means to make sacrifices in marital life?

It is giving up some of the things you own, love, or want to achieve in the future for the sake of your loved one to reach the best way to continue the marital relationship.

So ask yourself,

     

      • Do you sacrifice a lot for your loved ones?

      • Does your partner make sacrifices for you?

      • Did the sacrifices turn into duties that extinguished the flame of love?

    All of us know there are some sacrifices and concessions from the partners to obtain the gains to strengthen their relationship. Therefore, we called it a positive sacrifice. Sometimes one party compromises or sacrifices more than the other such as giving up desires and sacrificing personal ambitions. This causes an imbalance, frustration, and disappointment in the marital relationship for the two partners these are called negative sacrifices.

    We will explain some types of negative sacrifices in marriage.

       

        1. Giving up on your dignity, values, and correct convictions for the sake of your partner.

        1. Giving up on your needs in life, such as education, keeping friends, or relationships with family.

        1. Abandoning your hopes, dreams, and future ambitions for your partner’s satisfaction.

        1. Sacrificing freedom or the stubbornness of one partner in making a decision and forcing their partner to accept and submit to it.

        1. The sacrifice is apparent to make the partner feel guilty due to the concessions made by the other partner to control or humiliate.

        1. If one of the partners sacrifices permanently while the other partner is waiting for the continuous sacrifices.

        1. Allowing others, such as the partner’s family or friends, to interfere in family life or discipline children.

      This concession and negative ambivalence turn into adaptation, compulsion, control, and dissatisfaction with life, yourself, or your partner. The losses multiply as the sacrifices multiply, and the good feelings change into hatred and mutual regret between the two partners, But healthy sacrifices are necessary for the marital relationship because they renew the love between the two partners and support the desire to continue the relationship in balances, the common goal becomes the real desire to make each partner happy for their partner.


      So these are some types of positive sacrifices in marriage.

         

          • Spending time together. Such as vacations or canceling some appointments for the partner’s sake; and giving up some time for quality time with the life partner.

          • Acceptance of differences in moods and personal desires between the two partners. If one of the partners likes quiet, the other one likes noise or one enjoys traveling, and the other prefers short walks these are the sacrifices that can please the other party without negatively affecting the other.

          • Raising children. Usually, there can be a difference between parenting and discipline partners. Balance is achieved by dividing responsibilities between partners putting their children in the best possible position.

          • Intimate relationship between spouses. It is a different desire of men and women due to hormonal and psychological differences, so understanding each other’s mental and physical nature, and the mutual sacrifices between them, they reach a solution that satisfies both parties.

        Compromising and sacrificing in relationships requires flexibility and balance between emotions and ideas and the desire to improve the relationship and make life easier. so, If you are not ready for any sacrifice with complete will and awareness, it is better not to go through this experience because it will often make you feel regretful or dissatisfied with your partner later or yourself forever.


        So here are some tips before making any sacrifice in marital life.

           

            1. Take a comprehensive look at the impact of these sacrifices on you and your partner in the long run.

            1. Have emotional intelligence and know when and how to make sacrifices.

            1. Know what kind of sacrifices you can make and what you cannot make.

            1. The sacrifice should be for the sake of the one you love and not to maintain the relationship because the association likes to be a common desire between the two partners.

            1. Be able to stop making sacrifices whenever you want.

            1. Not to overburden yourself to prove that you are the best partner.

            1. Be well aware of the personality of the partner for whom you compromise and sacrifice. Does your partner appreciate your offers or take advantage of you?

            1. Balance between needs and desires and know your priorities that cannot be sacrificed or abandoned.

            1. Setting healthy boundaries in the marital relationship and adhering to them gently and firmly.

            1. Be well aware of your self-worth, learn from your past sacrifices, and accept them without exaggeration.

          Finally, concession and sacrifice in the marital relationship are essential because they should be linked to balance between the partners to reach a point of agreement and mutual satisfaction with their relationship.

          In a long-term marital relationship, is not important who wins more or sacrifices more It is enough to balance between giving and taking and seeing your partner grateful, happy, and eager to keep you.

          If you feel that those around you do not appreciate your sacrifices and consume you. contact us and let us help you.

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