Are you MR YES?

Do you like to say YES to others?

Would you want to hear YES from everyone?

Do you know that when you keep saying YES to others, you say  NO to yourself?

Do you know that these constant blessings put you and your interest in the second and perhaps in the last place compared to the welfare of others?

Do you know that if you say YES to something not important to you, it could mean saying NO to something that might be more important to you?

Do you not like saying NO?

Do you not like to hear NO from the others?

We all are too. But,

Do you know that the word NO  is the key to your success and the success of everyone else’s and mine as well?

Warren Buffet says,

The difference between successful people and other people is that successful people say NO to almost everything.

In social and professional life, the word “NO” is the word that we always need to deal with because it is more self-protection and one of your natural rights than the word “YES.”

Because NO prevents anyone or anything from attacking you or stealing your success, comfort, or even your free time.

The first step in making plans for success is to learn how to say NO tactfully and firmly at the same time and know how and when to say NO to yourself before displaying it to others.

Because despite the importance of the word NO, no one likes to hear it at all, and often we don’t want to say it

But if you don’t learn to say NO at the right time and place, the others will take your time, effort, and money, and you may be mistreated by them too.

 So,

If you don’t know how to say NO to anything like:

1- A long or frivolous phone call.

2- A visitor comes to you without an appointment.

3- Doing a service to someone you don’t want.

4- Wasting your time and energy in nothing with the others.

5- Overload yourself.

6- Useless exploitation by others.

7- An insult and encroach upon you and your rights.

8- Degrading temptations such as drug abuse, gambling, or some idiotic behaviors.

If you can’t say NO to annoying things or people, you will say  YES to everything you don’t want, hurt you, can’t bear, and beyond, you will say NO to the matter and essential things in your life,

Such as:

• • Your success in your work and career.

• • Your family and the future of your children.

• • Your happiness, and comfort.

• •  Your enjoyment of your free time.

• • Anything that benefits your health or your money.

• • Those who help you succeed and excel

• • An important meeting or plan for your development.

 So,

Before saying YES to the annoying people who do not consider your interest, Ask yourself,

1- What’s the worst thing that could happen if you said NO?

2- What were the results of your increased kindness to others?

3- What is essential in your life, and what is the most important?

4- Would saying YES now will affect your life negatively or positively?

5- What are the harms that may affect you if you say YES?

Before you like the word YES, you must know why you should pick the word NO much more.

Some reasons to say NO:

1- It prevents you from being taken advantage of by others.

2- You become a valuable person who does not get into trouble quickly.

3- You feel good about yourself because you are not docile or submissive.

4- You will be honest with yourself and others.

5– You will not cover your words with lies or excuses.

6-You will face your life as you like, not as others.

7- Your life will turn into a more fair life with everyone

So,

To be in love with saying NO, you must increase the motives that make you say NO a lot with an essential will and desire to control your life.

Here are some motives to say NO:

1- Increase your sense of harm to increase the motivation to say NO.

2- Reduce your embarrassment about saying NO, as long as the word YES will harm you.

3- Look at the damage you may suffer in the long run if you say YES.

4- Stop saying MAYBE and don’t be a procrastinator and make a clear decision.

5- Give yourself enough time to think before announcing your decision.

6- Learn to say NO without embarrassing or insulting those in front of you.

7- Say NO effectively without excuses, justifications, or explanations when it is a final decision.

8- Be aware that rejecting something from someone does not mean abandoning that person.

9- Be mindful that the person who agrees always becomes worthless.

10- Your genuine desire to achieve something for your life is a powerful motivator that makes you say NO to anyone who opposes your legitimate desires.

Finally,

Constantly saying YES won’t win people’s hearts, and saying NO won’t make others hate you.

NOW,

It is not about MR YES or MR NO, it is about knowing how, when, and why you have to say the RIGHT word at the right situation and time to make yourself visible to yourself and others and your status as an important person. 

IN THE First for yourself and people around you because sometimes you have to say NO to those you love to maintain your independence and to inspire others to realize you as a person worthy of respect.

If it is difficult for you to say NO, saying YES is NOT a solution. Saying YES when you mean NO only makes your life that much more difficult. It is far easier to learn how and when to say NO.

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Reference:

The Book of No: 365 Ways to Say it and Mean it―and Stop People-Pleasing Forever