10 strategies to control your reaction from rejection

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Written by Shahar Sherif

Life coach and marital relationship consultant. I studied coaching in one of the best American INLP centers, and I am currently lecturing in the same center for Arabic-speaking students.

20 March، 2021

“A relationship without trust or love is like a car without fuel, you can continue with it as you wish, but it will not lead you anywhere,” wisdom.

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 The rejection of others is one of the difficult things because it makes us feel sad, ashamed, and lose Confidence in ourselves because it’s like standing on broken glass; the longer we stand, the more we get hurt.

 In general, rejection from others is rarely good. It makes us angry because it personally seems like we are not good enough for someone. Or we are not sufficient to trust and love, which leads us to many negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves that make us feel emotional pain and perhaps physical pain as well.

Rejection could be in several ways like:

  • Direct personal rejection.
  • Indirect rejection through the phone or from others talking about you.

Rejection could be surprising or expected. Still, in any case, it is painful.

 To control your reaction to rejection from others, here are the strategies that you must consider to deal with and recover from rejection.

Strategies to deal with rejection:

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 1. Take your time.

 If it hurts or upsets, you must take time away from those who reject you so that you don’t say or do something you regret.

 2. Respect your feelings.

Because you are responsible for your feelings, for yourself, all your inner feelings, you can show and do not hide them, regardless of pain, anger, or sadness.

 3.  Ask for support for yourself.

 It is okay to ask for support from friends, family, and loved ones to not feel lonely.

 4.  Stay away from those who reject you.

 So that not to be hurt by them or do not deal with them with your feelings.

 5.  Take care of yourself.

 Do what makes you feel better, such as walking or watching your favorite movies and taking care of your body with enough sleep.

 6. Enjoy your loneliness.

Enjoying your own time with yourself makes you see things from several perspectives, and you may understand the reasons for rejection from others.

 7.  Respect yourself.

Do not feel bad about yourself or lose your self-confidence. Make a list of your accomplishments to realize what is good about you and realize your value because trying to please those who reject you will increase your feeling of loneliness, and you may be exploited by those who reject you.

 8. Watch yourself well.

If you have flaws that make others reject you, seek to fix them, but if you know that it is just a projection of their problems and your relationship with them is a toxic relationship to you, or they hate you, get away from them without pain.

 9. Ask yourself what it deserves?

Whether your relationship with these people deserves attention, the goal of relationships is to help you achieve success, happiness, and self-satisfaction; if it is not like this, the relationship will make you suffer psychologically and physically and drag you to regret it.

 10.  Consulted by specialists.

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 Sometimes friends or family do not have the right words or advice to help you with the most challenging parts of rejection. Counselors, therapists, and other support services are available for help in the short or long term.

On the negative impact of REJECTION that we might suffer from in our lives, we must get rid of it as soon as possible, simply because it is heavy;  So, give it up and loosen your chains.

Here we review a set of questions that help you to know are you suffering from rejection or not?

 1. Do you suffer from feelings of rejection from others?

 2.  Do you suffer from loneliness?

 3. Can you not quickly get past toxic relationships?

4.  Do you feel that your relationships with some people prevent you from growing and limiting your energy?

 5- Do you suffer from adverse effects from your relationship with others?

 If your answer was yes to any of these questions

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