3 Basics You Need To Know About Marital Counseling

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Written by Shahar Sherif

Life coach and marital relationship consultant. I studied coaching in one of the best American INLP centers, and I am currently lecturing in the same center for Arabic-speaking students.

14 March، 2022

Marriage Counseling

When may we need marital counseling? Marriage may seem ideal for everyone who desires a stable life and future family success.

But the challenges lie in defining and achieving common goals for both parties and building a solid marriage bond, and this does not mean there are no acceptable marital disputes.


When the differences and misunderstandings reach a dead end, some couples believe that rational solutions to save this marriage are impossible despite the importance of the marital relationship for both and the other balances in it, the most important of which are children, life, and shared feelings between the people.

So, Here is the role of the marital relations consultant because he is more interested in getting to the root of the problem between the spouses and the behaviors related to the trouble to find an appropriate and viable solution to put the marriage back on its proper track.

A marriage counselor is qualified to help with the most negative situations that may arise in a marriage, which may make couples who seek the help of a marriage counselor amazed by what they have learned and discovered from the session.

Marriage Counselors rely on the basics of marital counseling to help you, including:

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First: the basics of the marital relationship between the two partners:

1. Marriage counselors help couples see things from a different perspective.

2. Creating a more encouraging and feasible situation that helps both parties to participate effectively in reforming the relationship.

3. allowing the couple to identify the problem honestly and clearly.

4. The marriage counselor helps the two parties do exercises that help the couple better understand each other.

5. Giving spouses more opportunities to deal with problems more compassionately.

 A marital counseling session helps the couple be more open as the counselor asks very detailed questions to clarify the roots of the problem to the couple.

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Second, Define a list of the goals of this marriage:

1. Re-evaluate the marital relationship’s ideas, goals, and values to be on the right path to success.

2. Develop a list of goals in a marriage that both spouses share and focus on achieving.

3. Improving the language of communication between spouses to achieve their common goals as a married couple more encouragingly.

4. Clarify the aspirations of both parties and express their dreams about the relationship.

5. Create a genuine desire to help partners achieve their personal goals and dreams without undue pressure.

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Third:The Measurement of marriage developments:

1. Determining the contributions of each of them to the relationship and maintaining the right to accountability, assistance, and commitment towards both parties.

2. Defining a clear vision about the individual dreams of each partner and their impact on the other partner.

3. Determining an appropriate and realistic timetable for achieving the desired goals.

4. Helping both partners reach an appropriate level of integrity and intimacy to achieve the highest possible happiness, pleasure, and success.

In the end:

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Marriage is a soul contract between two persons, started with attraction and love and the acceptance of each partner by his partner, so the aim of it must be to create a happy, natural life between two people that does not depend on exploitation, demand, or dependence on each other, but the sharing of life, love, understanding, ambition and focus on each other’s success As people and family.


Your need for a marriage coach or counselor does not mean that you cannot manage your life.

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Still, it means your awareness of the value of your marriage and your family and what you built during your years of life, and it means your understanding of the value of science that helps you lead a better life for yourself and your loved ones.

So, If you find it challenging to maintain your married life or feel that things are going against your desire and dreams and you need coaching help, contact us now, and do not hesitate, we are here to work together.

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Resources: Cleveland Clinic


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